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Doing what you really want this Halloween 🎃

"The only real problem is a lack of love" ❣️  -- Marianne Williamson

But what does that really mean, when it comes down to logistics?

I mean, sometimes I have found myself thinking that if I love people, I better give all the love I got… even if that means I don’t do what I want.

Right?

That then looks like me…

— Giving my time to my husband by cuddling in the morning til 8 (…even though I told myself I’d wake up at 7am to exercise and start a miracle morning.. and was excited about that).

— Giving away lots of money or giftcards to homeless people to be nice and loving (…even though they don’t even go read books at barnes and noble, but the card meant the world to me as a gift from my best friend’s mom Virginia).

— Or going and doing things I don’t want to do just because it’s what social people do (even though I’d rather just stay home.)


And so if you have found yourself in these positions too,— feeling depleted, like a failure, scared, not knowing what you want, feeling people might leave you if you don’t do what they want… (but never really satisfied either, just anxious)…

I want you to listen to this story of my first client Sara, and how she had her breakthrough from this habit too. 


There can be another way— where you give love, and you don’t have to sacrifice yourself either.


Ironically, this session with Sara about 2 years happened on, you guessed it, Halloween!


It was a Wednesday, so we had our schedule planned like normal, around 4 pm. 


Sara came into my home office and sat on my bean bag chair, me on my ottoman (those were the luxury coaching chairs at the time!) a little bit stressed, disgruntled, and distracted.


I asked her, what was up? She mentioned it was something small, but getting down to it, she told me that she had told a bunch of her friends that night that she would go out to a costume party, but all she really wanted to do after a heavy week was just go home and read and have an ‘in’ night. 

Sara and I had been working on codependency, meaning that we give to others before taking care of ourselves, and feel we need others love or to be happy before we can really be happy. (aka people pleasing, etc)


And it can be the biggest reason we find ourselves out of alignment, friend, because basically our internal world (our desires, what we really want, our emotions), don’t match the outside world (our actions, our fake smiles, our “Sure!!” in a high-pittched tone even though we mean (please god, no!)

So anyway, Sara and I had been working on the depths of that for a while.

BUT! here brought another situation, one that seemed so simple and casual that it could go without noticing (sound familiar? 🤔 😉)

By the end of our coaching together that night, she had come to a breakthrough. I finally just asked her,

Do you want to go to the party tonight? No was her answer.

“But is it ok to change your mind or go against what you told someone, even if I said I’d go and they wanted me to?”

“YES” I said.

That will actually be of best service to you AND others in the long run, just let them know!

She sprang up from her chair, and said, You know what, I’m going to text my friend and tell her I can’t go, and just chill at home tonight, having tea, reading a book, and watching the trick or treaters go by (withOUT me answering the door).

Great!! I said. 🎉

And believe it or not, that Halloween night was her breakthrough moment in the program.

It was that night with something so simple and like a common experience

What were the results of that breakthrough for Sara?

— She ended up finding (it really found her) her dream job ever that combined all of her talents wishes and desires
— This job ended up making her 4x what she was making when she first came into my office

— Confidence like no other, and not depending on others to make her happy

— Ok and at peace with the journey, present, and stable where she was at (she said in her testimonial for me: Sometimes not knowing [your purpose, what you’re doing with your life] is the best place to be; that means you can do anything”)

— And you guessed it! no longer people pleasing, but feeling totally confident in herself, and in alignment KNOWING and STANDING behind doing what she really wanted and what was right for her!

Dude! Lots of things can come from the simple! It’s just about getting there!

SO, friend,

If you find yourself on this halloween night ‘waffling’ on what to be doing, just take a second to tune in, and ask yourself, what would I really love?

Then i challenge you to go do that thing (even if it feels scarier than a ghost in your closet on all Hallow’s eve 😉 👻)

You don’t have to sacrifice your needs, desires, dreams, or YOU anymore to also be of service help others, or love others in the world.

In fact, you’ll be able to do that even better when you give yourself waht you need first, have boundaries, and just do what you really want.

If you ever need help with this girl, I got you. I have 3 slots right now in my 3 month coaching program, and this is exactly the thing we work on and YOU can be like Sara. Confidence, Meant-to-be-ness, and knowing what you want (oh, and then acting on it. Like a baller)

Book your consult now if you’re ready for YOUR own breakthrough and this too.

Happy Halloween!

xo Colleen

 

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The Single-Most Important Thing You Can Do Right Now

to Live out Your Purpose in 2018

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Do you ever feel stuck to do what you really want to do, and wonder what it would actually take to do something you like… and still make money at it?

 

Turn your love (as random or non-lucrative as it may seem to you, like working on broadway or having fun with horses) into something you’re doing every single day?

 

What would it take to turn your purpose or your calling into a meaningful career?

 

Ive spent a lot of time pondering this question, friend. And I know sometimes it seems like a stretch.

 

But what I have found-- and have been living out! -- is that it is possible and meant for everyone, especially us in a younger generation.

 

I've helped countless people, just like you, do it for themselves, too.

 

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I remember working with a client, and when she first started working with me, she said she would do anything to get out of her teaching career because she was so unhappy. She just didn’t know how.

 

She said, “What would it take? Pregnancy? Jail?” 

 

😃  It had to go to that extreme to just find a way out. (Even though the secret was right inside of her all along).

 

And as humorous as that was, she was experiencing a lot of pain. Feeling unhappy, mediocre, and like she wasn't living out what could be awesome that God had planned for her.

That’s what I want to share with you today, the secret to how you can leave a career (or life!) you hate behind, and step into what God and your Higher Self are actually calling you to do.

 

...because it’s the single most important thing you could do to help yourself, and other’s you’d love to make a difference for. 

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This is One powerful way to get out of your rut or unhappy place in life…  

The single most important thing you could do for yourself right now, to set you up for 2018.

Here’s the skinny:

  1. Live from your Vision & follow Your Fantasy.

Instead of just asking yourself, "what’s next?” Allow yourself to dream bigger. What is that fantasy that I even have a hard time admitting to myself because I think it’s so fantastic that it might not even be real (but if it happened…. oh boy now you’re plucking my heart strings...).

Instead of just going for mediocre or what is safe, go for that thing that is something better!

(I share a great story about what a difference this made in my client Sean... you can check out the webinar replay here.)

That is what you want to live by, and that’s the fantasy you want to have the courage to follow… because it’s in there for a reason.

When we follow THAT roadmap, even though it might seem risky, random, or too good... that's the roadmap that leads us to

the guidance to get us what we desire deep down.

 

God finds the way to make it work for you, as long as you take some action to get there, believe that it’s even remotely possible, and are open enough to say, God, i surrender, you know what i want, now how i can i get there?

 

If you just go asking yourself, what’s next, your trajectory for the future will be quite low (albeit, feeling safer. It won’t get you what you want, because unfortnuately, just doing the ‘right next thing’ will only prepare you for that thing… it might not prepare you for your dream.

 

If you actually live from your vision, tho, and make decisions backtracking from that ultimate goal, you’ll probably make a lot of more cooler (bigger!) decisions. AND you can know your actions are definitely leading you to a place you want to go.

 

So what to do about it?

Expression!

Did you know the opposite of expression is de-pression? That’s right. These go hand in hand. If you’re feeling in a rut, just start somewhere, and start to express yourself in a way that feels good to you. This allows your intuition to start to flow, and can even have you hearing more of your inner guidance (that knows the bigger way anyway), and off you go, in the current of clarity, leading you to go quickly to what you truly desire and see for yourself deep down.

(i.e.... What you are meant for!)

 

As author of You are a Badass says,

Our fantasies are our realities in an excuse-free world.

2018 is the best time to live that. Start now. And here’s how you can get started.

1. Make a vision board of that vision for yourself. On the vision board...

2. Pick a character or person that represents what you want. This way you have the essence of someone who you can tap into, all in one place. (I'll be vulnerable here.. for real, mine is Wonderwoman Galdot. She rocks and is the epitome of what I want!).

3. What are touchstones you can put in place now that would help you connect to that bigger vision? (Oprah used to always have real flowers in her home, to at least signify she could have what she wanted eventually, and connect to her bigger dream). And on that note, even as a touch stone, what is an ACTION step you can take (even if it’s small!) to connect you to your vision.

              (For example personally, I’m applying to speak at a well-known larger conference in the area, because it speaks and connects with the person I want to become. Have I ever done that? No! Am I scared! Sure! But I can still do it, and the process itself is quite simple. So I'm doing it anyway! we got nothing to lose! and it connects to something even bigger than the conference.

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What’s yours?

I'd love to hear your feedback from this writing, and what you're deciding to focus on in the beginning of this 2018. Email me at colleen@colleencoles.com to let me know what you thought, and I'll be in touch to say hey!

 

Colleen is a Purpose Alignment Coach who helps Young professionals get clear on what their purpose is and turn it into a meaningful career. She has worked with clients all around the world with varying professions, including servers, teachers, actors, entrepreneurs, designers, and more, to step into the dream they see for themselves, while learning how to trust their Higher Power, themselves, and their intuition to guide them. Colleen helps people have the courage and confidence to stop apologizing and do what they REALLY desire to do inside... so they can help more people and live a life they love. If you'd like to get clear on YOUR purpose, schedule your free Clarity Consultation with Colleen here.

 

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